The pH of Change

 The pH scale in medical science measures how acidic or alkaline basic something is. The pH of blood is 7.35 acidic to 7.45 alkaline. The blood is slightly more alkaline naturally. I used to think the body controlled the mind, and I had no control over my body. But I've discovered there are things I can do to heal my body. For instance, by reading books about maintaining good health, I found that lack of sleep and too many stressful thoughts can decrease the body's ability to balance the blood pH, making our bodies sick. Commonsense is to get more sleep, but what can I do about stressful thoughts? How do I heal those?

Then, I began to read books about maintaining mental calmness. Surprisingly, I proved that my mind is powerful; when I change my thoughts, I change my stress level. Our blood has to get the pH back into alignment to get well. What could I do to reduce stress?

When I was young and inexperienced in navigating life's challenges, I had many triggers. I looked at the prevailing current events and people telling me where to focus and judge. I allowed that information to tell me whether I was peaceful today or mad as hell. Then, I grew older and wiser. I stopped looking outside of me and trained myself to slow down, breathe, drink water, and walk in nature to turn off the world's noise.

This calmness helped me through the other side of fear and see the fear was worse than what happened. My fearful thoughts are dangerous for my health! Transparency no longer scared me but removed the fear of the unknown from me. When I understand stuff, I let go of fear. I love to research everything I fear, which results in confidence in ME and lowered stress. Bonus!

 Your life is a gift to the world. Enjoy it; life is short, so find happiness in every inch. 

Happy Moment! Happy New Year!

Here's what I've learned about New Year's resolutions: do not make promises to yourself that can fail.

Failure leads to guilt for letting yourself down. We need no more guilt, consciousness, or shame in this world. We have enough to forgive ourselves for. I am done with more guilt or shame!

This ridiculous digitalized world has captured the youth's attention and confused them into no longer recognizing common sense. Do these innocent lambs believe whatever they are TOLD to believe—ashamed of our color? Or guilt about gender? And now I am TOLD someone is telling them to take on the guilt and shame of the PAST mistakes of another generation of dead people! It appears to be working…

No thanks, I'm out! I'm too old and WISE to play that stupid game of hateful blame shame anymore.

Get outta here with such nonsense. None of us can change the past, common sense, but we can change the future for OURSELVES. Not others, but our individual future, common sense.

I thank common sense that I don't need to carry my phone everywhere and question my biology. I feel for those that do. I like a break from the madness of the world. I often sit by the river and stare at nature. What beautiful ice and snow! I'm thankful to have eyes and to make time to see nature. I'm grateful for this life.

It's time to take your mind back. Change your focus and go inside to relieve yourself from the pressure of social ideology and the constant need to perform work in this world to prove you are worthy to be here. Your answers are there when you are not operating out of guilt and shame. Fear has two sides: selfless and selfish. The balance is in between. You find yours, and I'll find mine. No violence is needed to do this.

So this New Year's Resolution is one that we can't fail; in fact, we can celebrate it moment by moment…

Set yourself up to win. Whatever you choose to believe as your perspective, stay focused on that. I suggest "avoiding things you can't control and staying focused on your life. Turn off anything that makes you afraid to explore and focus on things you can, your life, and your choices.

After sixty years, I have learned that I control nothing and no one. I've learned the actual war is inside m my head. Where is your battle? Out there or inside your head? Your perspective changes your world. It takes you from victim to victor. We all need boundaries to be safe from harm. We need safe perspectives that turn us into victorious winners.  We need to retain calmness to think of creative ideas to solve problems.

I love ordinary people worldwide; they are so generous and kind, especially in times of catastrophe, offering help to one another when governments do not.

How can we avoid getting into a physical war of words? Live moment by moment, stay in your business and out of others. "How can I help?" AND "I thank you for helping" are great words of peace.

Diversity unites us worldwide. Happy New Year!

"I Don't Know, I Don't Care"

The past year has been a whirlwind of unexpected losses and challenges. I have discovered in my elder years that we can never know why some things happen, and we need not worry our heads with extra stress to analyze things out of our control. Judgmental thoughts, angry non-stop thoughts, and punishing “how to fix others” conniving fear thoughts waste precious time on this Earth with family.

Our time would be better spent focusing on our internal gifts and how to share these with others. We are gifted, and if we look inside to find what motivates us to have fun, we find that gift.

Years ago, I heard a wise saying, “Find something you love to do and find a way to get paid doing it.”

I discovered that you first have to find that love of self and forgive yourself for not being kind to you. When you do, you can learn to speak well of others and forgive them too. When we share our best selves, it will be that gift we give to the world. Some may like it, and others may not. That is expected. Everyone does not need to like or accept us. If someone doesn’t want your gift, move on to find other friends. A few billion people are on the planet, and I bet a few will welcome you and your unique gift.

Once we know who we are and our birthright to be gentle and kind, we will not be so easily seduced to fade into the mentality of destructive behaviors. We must mind our business and let others mind theirs. Their journey is not ours to travel. Diversity unites us.

The elders who have successfully navigated these dangerous waters in times of toxic influencers must give the younger generation the tools to get back on track, stay focused, and serve others with kindness and compassion. Fear is a debilitating invisible control tactic; do not fall victim to it.

Thank goodness I have a wonderful life and family. I love my simple life. I bet I’d love you, too.

And about the so-called” Aliens in the sky…” I don’t know; I do know that open minds and hearts need no weapons.

The best response is to remain free and calm, focus away from toxic influencers who want to instill fear in you, and say aloud, “I don’t know, and I don’t care.”  

Happy Holidays! 

Eleven Lovely Things

1)     The memory of a laugh with a family member or friend

2)     The memory of a ridiculous situation you survive with a family member or friend

3)     The memory of sharing a good meal with a family member or friend

4)     The memory of having someone to share trouble with and get comfort from a friend

5)     The memory of a great adventure on vacation that was FUN with a friend

6)     The memory of celebrating any achievement or promotion with a friend

7)     The memory of kayaking or canoeing up a river with a friend

8)     The memory of staying with someone through good times and bad when others ostracized

9)     The memory of standing up for what you believe with family or friends

10)  The memory of being so lucky to be born in a country with individual freedoms shared by family and friends

11)  Knowing that now is the moment to forgive someone and love them, “NOW” is all we have.

 

The Majority of Ordinary Folks

 As every year goes by, I am more thankful to be me.

As every stone is turned over and we see, I am grateful to know you.

As every system flaw is revealed, I am glad we survived thus far.

And thus far, we know we will triumph over what is yet to come.

The majority of people and families we know are good, good people.

Good people are the majority worldwide.

Exciting times to be alive and witness the incredible adventure we call life.

It gets easier and easier as we stay faithful to positive collaborations when challenged.

A mantra I repeat to myself in unexpected situations is, "Everything happens for us, not to us; we don't have to like it. It's just easier if we welcome challenges with necessary actions to preserve the hope of a better day."

When you change your perspective, your world opens up possibilities for change.

A better day always comes when we hold on. History has proven this.

Thankful for the world's ordinary people, I am among the majority. 

When I said "I Do.."

Clint black and his wife Lisa Hartman sing a song of our love. The lyrics and tune are so beautiful that I wanted to share them with you. August 16th, forty-six years with my true love, it was a love hard fought nonetheless helped us become better persons. Thank you, Charlie, for loving me as I have loved you. Forgiveness, laughter, kindness, and compassion are the glue that holds us together forever. If you have true love, you will feel what these words mean, too. Enjoy.

Title: When I said I Do... By Clint Black

https://genius.com/Clint-black-when-i-said-i-do-lyrics

Happy 46th Anniversary Charlie, I love you.

Letting Go, Holding On, Accepting Reality

Twenty-twenty-four is offering change to everyone.

It began with unexpected loss and expected loss.

It continues with surprises to change our lives.

After all, I am thankful to have held on to great memories.

What is this life like if you do not accept reality and move ahead with hope?

Life is a gift, and your life is a gift to the world. I’m grateful you and I are here.

Exciting time to be alive and experience the evolution of love and light.

Everything is getting better every day in every way; I feel it.

Thankful. 46 years with my true love. Daffodils, I'm blessed.