I don't know..see another Gristmill run by slaves or Kykuit?

Kykuit it is.  John D. Rockefeller oil tycoon.  The palisades and Hudson River were the shining star for the view.  House very traditional and not overdone.  Art work mostly beautiful statues and modern and abstract. Gardens and terraces were beautiful. Lovely afternoon, this house after a self guided tour of Sleepy Hollow cemetery.

The cemetery has interesting final residents and it was fun to go on a scavenger hunt to find each one. Washington Irving did well. Years agoI bought a copy of Sleepy Hollow illustrated signed by the artist Will Moses for the children to keep as an heirloom. Yes I bought three.

This one of the walkways on the Kykuit estate. By the way that sculpture at the end is made out of pink granite. (An inside joke) 😁

Creating Without Sharing with the World is a Waste of God Given Talent

Your talent is your love of doing something.  This is as natural as breathing and it may be something you do not even see as valuable because you do it so easily.  This natural talent can bring you peace, may bring you monetary gains but whatever it is share it so that others may benefit from your life.

Your life is a gift to the world, share it.

Soulmate, Is there Only One?

No. We all connect with many different people on many levels at different times in our life. This is why people divorce when they believe they grew and their mate did not, there are irreconcilable differences they claim.

You decide who you go through this life with and although it is true we change at different times sometimes, it does not mean you have to trade in your current significant other for another that is more evolved. Maybe he/she has evolved in a different area than you and you could share this if you communicated more and listened to the other one, really listened.

Compromise is absolutely necessary for two people to live together a lifetime. Only you can decide what you are willing to give or give up to be with another. Choose wisely, your lifetime of happiness depends on it. Know yourself.

How The World Shuts Down Individual Creativity

Can you name what you like to do?  A creative activity, that stirs the imagination, like writing poetry, rhyming lyrics, inventing a song, making a sculpture, a new quilt design, building something, designing a computer program, creating music, designing art through welding, sew a new design garment, using critical thinking skills to solve your own problems, something that you came up with, you created the answer, another option to explore to fix a problem in your life. Not do for fun, like hiking or surfing but CREATE, that lets your imagination fly and makes you feel as if you have accomplished something that you alone has accomplished?

Too many people have decided there is no creativity in them and therefore can't do this.  This kind of shut down thinking is why we do not get to live life to the fullest potential.  Much of this shut down comes from childhood experiences, environment and imitating what we saw there. We need to root out this limited thinking because in us is the unlimited potential that created this earth.  Powerful thinking is available in us now, we need to access it.

Are you Living Someone Else's lIfe?

Years ago working as a dental assistant for an oral surgeon in New Jersey I learned a lesson from the the doctor.  Every morning I would arrive at the office excited to work in oral surgery again. Interesting, for sure!  No two people had the same wisdom tooth, bone structure, or problem that made the doctor's education so vital for a positive outcome.

Some mornings after I had been there for a couple of weeks I  would hear the doctor behind his closed office door cussing loudly.  AT first I thought he was with someone, then later I thought he was on the phone, but eventually he would open the door and come out with a smile and move through his day.  He made  a lot of money and he had a lifestyle that included vacations, homes, a trophy wife,  kids, cars, boats, everything, I thought he had the perfect life. A life that I thought even I would enjoy if I had it. I always wanted to be a dentist.  (My poor grades,ADHD, and lack of support to find me the help I need from family, would not make that possible and there was no diagnosis or help for me in school 50 years ago.)  So I thought this guy was lucky indeed!

After working there a few months and hearing this ritual the doctor went through every couple of weeks I decided to ask him why he did this?

He told me, "I hate this life I'm living! My father wanted me to be a doctor, so I became a doctor, my father wanted me to have lots of material things so I do, my father wanted me to stay near home, so I have, I have everything but my freedom!  I'm so deep in debt to my education and my office equipment I'll never get out of here in time to live life  on my terms.  That guy pumping gas down on the corner does not know how lucky he is!  I'd trade places with him in a minute to live his simple life free from all this responsibility and debt!"

I said, "What can you do to change your life now?"

He said, "I have no idea."

This man thought more about the things he did not like than he did about how to change things, how to get out of this life he lives, but hates.  And that is why he had no ideas.  If you think about what you want more than what you don't want you will come up with ideas to change your life.

I think we all need to give ourself permission to go after something different and then follow through with the inspiration that unlocks the door to this freedom we desire.  It may not be immediate freedom but with time and focus it can happen in a couple of years if we don't lose focus.

How To Move Passed Depression

Move forward, think different thoughts and make plans to move to another state or country, make new friends that are not poisonous to be around in action or conversation.  Work at controlling your mind and moving in the direction of freedom from the hurt or anger you feel now. You can and will find this freedom if you are willing to make a move in that direction.

First you identify where the hurt that is causing your anger is coming from.  Is it your family? Move away. Is it your job? Get another one.  Is it your debt? Invent ways of cutting back on your spending and save to pay off the debt.  Need more money? Get a better paying job, if this is not possible where you live...Work additional hours and a second or third job to make more money.

Focus on your freedom.  As you move outside of the routine you live that obviously is not making you happy everyday to get up and do it one more day...your mind does a miraculous thing... You will think of new ways to live. The only thing that can stop you is you.

Controlling your mind is the easiest and hardest thing to do, you choose. You will live the life you think about, ask any winner!

Knowing When the other Person is Right for You

Conversation and communication without sexual relations is first.  Become friends, go for walks together, go out to dinner, go on hikes, discuss philosophies on life, see if you two are on the same track in life.  People who have no intention of having a happy and long life with another can go from person to person with no strings attached.  If you want a long and happy life you start out slow, and build a relationship.

The lists is as follows:

1) Is the other person free from being pinned down in their own life?

2) Is the other person free from financial debt accumulated before she/he met you?

3) Is the other person coming with strings attached to an obligation she/he made before you?

4) Is the other person upbeat and happy most of the time?

5) Does the other person have a positive outlook on her/his dreams and look forward to seeing these come true?

6) Is the other person willing to work for the life they want alongside of you?

7) Is the other person emotional independent of you and stable in logic, reasonable in compromise?

8) Is the other person able to support you on your journey and you are able to support her/him equally?

9) Are both of you willing to let each other "Be" the person she/he wants to be without making demands that go against the other?

10) Yes, the last can be you want someone clean, good -looking, sharp in mind and appearance, like you.


This is the bottom line, if you are not all of these things, you will be looking for someone to get what you lack now.  Time to work on yourself to get free and then attract someone like you.

There will be plenty of unknowns, plenty of unforeseen, plenty of obstacles that will arise as you live life and try to make the best of all situations in life even with the best choice of mate, but at least you will start out with someone that can roll with life's punches, like you, and never give up on the relationship.  First you both must be free.