Friday, December 21, 2018

If you Talk A Lot About A Subject That Educates YOU, You May Be A ...

Teacher of that subject.

If you talk a lot about yourself without curiosity, or others with contempt, you may be a braggart or a gossip, both a bore in conversation. Choose what you speak about with open heart and open mind then listen. Assume everyone knows more than you, because... they do if you listen long enough.

If someone does not find 'your interesting subject' interesting, find your group, there are people who get you, love you, and want to talk with you about subjects you are interested in, find them, these are your true friends. Don't try to force a friendship with any person(s) that does not want your knowledge or interests.

Everyone fits in somewhere, find your friends."Speak your loving truth, enjoy your life"

Allow that others are free to live their life too, even if you don't agree to be part of it. Always choose peace, you will know it by the outcome of actions, both yours and other people. Choose peace every moment until it becomes a habit. Life gets easier every decade as we choose to agree to disagree with peace. You are not alone, find your group, they are closer than you think.

Thankful to find peace with imperfection, me. The beginning of knowledge was to discover, no matter how much I know, I can never know it all, no one can, it is not possible. Wow, I discovered this on my own and Socrates discovered this too, many years ago!

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Monday, December 17, 2018

Dusting Around Objects On A Table Is Like Not Dealing With Feelings

Every single day I meditate and study stoic, sage, sound advice from speakers I respect.  As I was contemplating my latest studies I was dusting the house and thinking.

When I get in a hurry because I have so much to do, I dust around the objects on the table. Then I look back and still see dust... This did not meet the goal.

So I paused, took everything off the table, and dusted again.  I used furniture polish. Afterwards it looked good, it felt better to me.

I thought as I always do, this is like having uncomfortable feelings arise and being too busy to deal with these. I push these aside, other tasks need to be done and even if I meant to come back to this, I don't, years can go by and suddenly one day there is so many thoughts my mind is cluttered.

Now I have to empty my mind of everything to get rid of the clutter and find a way to get organized thoughts and peaceful in actions. This time with a clear conscious and some much needed words of wisdom from those that know more than me. My polish for the mind?  Wise sages like Eckhart Tolle, Byron Katie Mitchell, Jordan Peterson, etc.  Sages have been here all along if we seek these out.

I needed to slow down, seek another way to think and do the work. I do the work every day to keep my mind in peaceful mode.  I have become very protective of this mind I educated.

Resentment and pride the two thieves that cause hurt and stop us from acquiring wisdom.  The younger generation, like me, is full of pride and slow to welcome the wisdom of elders that care enough to speak, until one day, like me, they cannot take the pain anymore.

Then we seek help, until then we just take life for granted. So very thankful to understand more now than ever that "I am enough."  No need for alcohol or sedatives to calm the nerves.  I have the power to do this myself. Is is not easy at first but over years of practice it becomes second nature. Namaste.


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Saturday, December 1, 2018

Surrendering To Surrender

A few years ago, after I celebrated a 50+ birthday, I hit a wall, a realization that my thoughts were not peaceful enough and clear enough for me to live with myself in peace another day and so I changed. (Even though I have worked at this daily since teen years. I came from a very angry family.) I had to surrender to my place in life, my choice and the consequences I received, some good, some bad, I had to relive in my mind these consequences without judgment.  I sought out more knowledge and found Eckhart Tolle, Byron Kelly, and delve in deeper to meditation.  I found I am beginning to live a very open minded life with closed minded people in it and I wanted these closed minded people in my presence no more. There is no need for me to be in angry conflict with anyone anymore. Life is too short. I love people. I want to have kind people around me that truly love and care for me as I love and care for them. People including family members, that go out of their way to visit me and see me, persons that get excited to be with me as I am excited to be with them.

People don't need to be perfect, I certainly am not perfect, but I want people that know what it is to live in the "power of now."  People that always give themselves the best that is available and want the best for others too.

And now I'm a decade older and I continue to enjoy reading,and seeking self improvement. I found another author that speaks truth to me, Jordan Peterson, that resonates. In this study:

"I am surrendering to surrender."  ~MSN

What does this mean?  I'm not completely sure but one action that has been inspired in me is "total simplicity" in thought, logic, reason, that translates into a total "dejunking" of everything in my environment. Excess jewelry, excess furniture, unused art supplies, crafts, books, all objects are being donated to those less fortunate that can use them now.  Why do I need to stock such things that can be used and enjoyed now by another? As I release each attachment to these material things, there is a peace coming to my being, a peace to my mind, a simple way of living life...

And I am so extremely thankful for my husband and children, and a few close friends that are like me, surrendering to surrender.  We are becoming very aware life is too short to be in conflict, or constantly at war over ideas, opinions. I am so grateful to have friends that confront their fears head on, without addictions or blaming others. Persons that are aware that as we all take responsibility for everything in our life, stop blaming others, get thankful, we are not victims but the creators of our own reality. Life can be beautiful, if only in your perspective, give yourself this peace, only you can give yourself peace. 

Today do this one thing, stop making excuses for not being the best you can be, this includes stop blaming others or blaming your past mistakes for not being your best self, now, do it now.  Enjoy your life, death comes unexpectedly at times, learn to live your best life before death comes to you.

Namaste and God bless us everyone. 😉

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Friday, November 30, 2018

Christmas At Pemberley

The Capital Rep in Albany, NY is currently running this play a sequel to Pride and Prejudice by Jane Austin.  The cast had superb actors from all over the USA and many from off Broadway from our own NYC.  Humor, music, acting, top notch entertainment and so worth the evening to just relax and remember when romance and love began "with your clothes on and really getting to know one another before marriage was seriously considered."

A certain amount of stuffiness is preferred by me and my husband.  And a serious lifetime commitment, come what may, no matter what, also preferred by us.  Marriage for a lifetime needs to be worked out for the betterment of each party every time a serious disruption occurs, and as for basics, what one would think would go without saying, no longer exists, you need to agree on these: no domestic violence, no lies, no infidelity, no polygamy, no arranged marriages, can you believe this needs to be said?  Well apparently it does, this is America, not the dark ages.

This play is based on these long tried and true sentiments in a more austere time reveled in Jane Austin books, and some of us shed a tear to hear those romantic sentiments and oath of love once again expressed with promise in a simpler time.  The writers are to be praised for this great writing.

Thank you Lauren Gunderson and Margot Melcon writers, young successful playwrights that this generation can enjoy for years to come.

Thank you Jane Austin for reminding us of love in a simpler time.

Thank you Sweetheart for taking me. It was a great night.

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Saturday, November 24, 2018

Eleven Lovely Things


1)   Seeing the first white dusting on a field of Sumac

2)   Waking to see a sunrise coming through the window that outlines my Sweetheart’s silhouette as he lies next to me sleeping

3)   Looking at a miniature balsam wood cutout of a village with tiny white lights that light up the slopes as I write

4)   Seeing an artist carve a bear out of a plain wood log

5)   Seeing a white turkey in our yard for the very first time

6)   Eating dinner on the deck with my Sweetheart unnoticed as two black bears walk by the deck 4 feet beneath us

7)   Seeing a sleeping lion tattoo on the Swamp Witch

8)   Watching a bird build a nest in the southern point of my kayak leaning against the back wall of my house

9)   Witnessing the mother bird taking all her young ones out for their first successful flight out of the nest, as each pauses to perch on our deck and lattice till they fly up to a high limb where mother and father bird are chirping, cheering along, each of the four

10)Going through old pictures and letters, memories all but forgotten… of a fun life raising children, we did so many, many, educational, exciting, adventurous, fun things as a family.

11)Seeing a moose in the wild for the first time, even thought it was 4AM on the Mass Pike.

Another great year. Thankful.

Friday, November 16, 2018

Form Your Opinion and then Read Everything You Can Find, Opposing Your View

Now what do you think?

The point of TV is to make money for the production companies that produce the shows.  As in any sales position, if people don't need your product you must create a need through fear of loss or pleasure to improve your lifestyle through entertainment. We don't need the spin, we don't need the fear factor promoted, we need straight true facts, yes we need the press, but an unbiased press does not exist, maybe never will. Why?

All news channels have talk show hosts that are there to get you to tune in to their channel again tomorrow or the ratings go down, the show is canceled, the host, out of job.  So TV hosts, radio hosts, like comedians, walk the edge of being politically incorrect to stir up fear or excitement, rarely to report just facts. Facts are boring, yawn, turn over, go to sleep...

News is needed but because it may be boring, the media has to cause a spin, a stir, to get the audience rallied up, else, why would anyone stay tuned in to buy that narrative or advertisers' products?

If you really are passionate, do the work. Research and read many books and periodicals that are not reported on media. Form your own opinions about everything but focus on the one thing, that thing that grabs your attention most, this is the reason you are here. That one thing if focused upon will bring you contentment in what you do best, you will be your best because you will do this for your entire life. Because you love to do this, you will become very good at this, maybe an expert after twenty or thirty years of research and application, and stay the heck away from passive, spoon fed, learning that bypasses all understanding being streamed into your brain via media, gaming, etc.

Great quote I heard recently:

"The problems that grab you are the portal to your destiny. ~Jordan Peterson~

Thankful to grow up knowing celebrity life, entertainer's (actors, comedians, talk show hosts) politicians' life (especially when campaigning for election) is not real. These professions are hard roads to travel, to get the attention and money each seek. These although enjoyed by me, never interested me at all.

Do I believe each of these people in this USA have good intentions? Yes I do.  I'm just saying, believe half of everything you see, a quarter of everything you hear, and less of whatever anyone tells you in person. It takes a long time to find a truthful friend or teacher that will be there for you come what may, even if you disagree. It takes a long time to discern truth from lies, but we all can learn this in time. Form your own opinion through lots of research that "oppose" the popular opinion of what you think is true.

After you form an opinion, do your research, read everything against your viewpoint, then make a final decision. You cannot do this research without an open mind, you can do this research if you truly want to find a viable answer today. Let not media and government take your right to think for yourself, or research, and speak away.


Learn to think for yourself, don't miss out on the greatest show on earth, your life.

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Saturday, November 10, 2018

"Free Solo" Dangerous Movie for the Public to See

There is a 33 year old man that loved rock climbing without a rope. The disregard for his human life in such a dangerous activity made him odd and made him a first time ropeless rock climber at El Capitan, Yosemite Park.  This of course made him famous, but at what price? There is no doubt he could have died at any moment yet he did not care for his life, all he focused on was climbing that rock, no one had done this climb ropeless before and many have died trying, that used a rope.

Why did he do it? It was such a blatant unnecessary risk of a human life and the danger is this: because he did it successfully as a skilled rock climber, and had it filmed, this movie will inspire young bucks, testosterone driven teenagers to think he/she, too, cannot be killed, to try it.  Young men die with this uncontrolled testosterone brain doing a lot less, driving recklessly, racing, jumping off cliffs in undetermined bottoms of abandoned rock quarries, (I did this once as a teen).  Later when your brain develops a very healthy understanding of life and dangers in it, you, hopefully, rethink such ridiculous dangerous acts.  This is good, the human race will not survive otherwise.

But this world of a five senses only focus, glorifies a winner, an explorer of new terrains, an inventor, and therein lies a problem.  Women get possessed in their pursuits as well, look at Madame Curie's hands after too many x-rays she performed on herself. Necrotic.

The x-rays although primitive in its nature helped to begin a needed insight into a human's body to locate disease.  Sonograms and thermograms came decades later but it began with x-rays developed by Madame Curie.  Does the end justify the means?  In Madame Curie's discovery she did not know that the x-rays would cause necrosis eventually, if she did know would she have done it?  I don't know.

But back to people who do these seemingly heroic feats risking a life for unnecessary conquests, such as beating the rock, that benefits only Alex Honnold to feel joy of the climb, his friends were glad he made the climb but more so they were glad he got it out of his system and lived. In the movie he said when he got to the top he almost cried but decided not to, after all, he never saw his parents shed a tear.  A book tour, a talk show round, he becomes a motivational speaker for corporate America, will insure income so he can climb rocks for many years.  What message will this movie send to the public?

My concern, if he wants to do this, it is his life, how did his brain become desensitized? Some think his father had Asperger's and that helped him not to know how to connect with others, his parents divorced, he was never told that he was loved or hugged, but we must realize his brain is "not wired for personal preservation, safety or "feeling" the value he has in life," or feel any obligations to the people that love him. This is a tragedy for him. His disconnect to others.

This film will inspire other young, inexperienced testosterone pumping men and women, not so wise, to die trying, some may with much practice succeed. But is this a price that all must pay in this generation of technology where, gaming makes reality a joke, or families disconnected by divorce, arguments over money, land, a perceived unfair distribution in a will causes families to divide forever? What about parents that ship kids off to boarding schools and full-time daycare so they can work, with no interruptions, from their own children? How about high functioning alcoholics, drug addicts, and food addictions in us all, that desensitizes us to feelings of being alive and valuing human life?  And worse, much deeper and sadder, loses the search for our real purpose, a purpose outside of self and conquest, a purpose that makes us "feel" alive?

Our children are watching us and learning how to deal with life from watching us.  How will the next generation survive?  The only choice, turn off feeling anything to disguise the hurt, turn off like a button on a video game, sleep, wake up, repeat.

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