As long as you need, the rest of your life, as much time as you need, no one can determine this but you. Dysfunctional grieving is when you can no longer live the daily activities of life. As long as you can do what you need to do to live your life, you can grieve in your private silent moments.
No one can tell you to get over it and life goes on as if this the answer. It is better to be present and silent offering anything you can do or give to make things easier for the bereaved. If you cannot offer this, then it is better you don't speak. Anything else is callous, you do not know what grief feels like for another person because you lost the same thing in your past. To be tenderhearted and nurturing, truly caring for the other person is the kind thing to do.
Let others be. We do not know what is reasonable for another person because it is reasonable for me.
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