The problem "Good Men" have is they are unaware of how
bad behaving women can be divisive to isolate you out of the herd for their
kill. Good men see a pretty woman and think "If she is single and
over 18 y o I will ask her out." So he does and at first the
relationship looks good, she may be having sex with him from the first date to
invite him into her web of lies and insecurity. She will use her body to pull
him deeper into her web of controlling him and telling him what to do 24/7.
But how does a good man know?
If the man is lucky enough to have a female relative such as a sister,
mother, sister-in-law, Grandmother, who has a healthy love for him, she will
warn him, "This woman is not for you." If he is not too weak in
character to receive advice from a caring woman in his family, he will have
further conversations with this relative to open his eyes to this unhealthy
relationship. If he is not blinded by the sex and his poor self-image/ego that
believes this lying admiration this bad behaving woman seems to have for him,
he will break it off, and ultimately save himself a lifetime of heartache.
If he does not heed this sage advice he will experience financial pain
and emotional pain that can only be soothed by another "roll in the hay with
this vapid shell of a woman."
Men are taught nothing about
how to spot a good woman. Unless you saw a good woman and a good man in your
parents' relationship, you are at a loss. With so much divorce this last
generation, no wonder the men and women are not sure of what they are getting
into. So you must seek out good boundaries and stick to these. You have to get
new information in to change outcomes. You have to actively seek knowledge
about a good relationship. Read books, go to seminars on healthy relationships,
and watch YouTube videos of teachers that teach good tips on relationships.
John Gray, Anthony Robbins, Wayne Dyer, teach what they learned the hard
way, from failed relationships.(on YouTube) Be the good person you want to
attract in this world and beware of the following...
When a woman has nothing to
offer a man but her body, she is angry. She is out to get whatever she
can from the world and any man for as long as it lasts. If this man wakes
up and gets free of her, the man will be sucked for every material thing he
owns and every penny he has, she may even stalk him later when he has another
woman in his life. One can only hope he gets free before he marries her.
If not once married, the psychic vampire games will begin.
So guys I offer you this with
no ulterior motives than to warn a "Good Guy" about these predators.
1. Beware of a (bad behaving)
single woman who cannot pay her own bills. She does not have a good
paying job to afford any life much less one she dreams about. She may not have
a place to live. At first she needs rescuing, and men by nature love to
rescue a damsel in distress. She may have a child or two from different
failed relationships in tow. She is looking for a "house and a
father" for her children, (Eddie Murphy mentions this in one of his comedy
routines, he learned this early on) any man will do but she prefers one with
steady income, a home, and money. In the beginning when her financial situation
is relieved and she has a roof over her head (and her children) she can't thank
the man enough, so she has sex with him a lot to thank him. He may think,
"Praise and sex? What more can a guy want?"
And the opposite financial
situation, she has money from a divorce, inheritance, a job/business she owns,
she may have kids from another relationship or not, but she is still looking
for a "valet man." A man that will serve her every whim and fancy.
Maybe a man that will "babysit" her kids so she can go to work or do
something else with her friends. A man that will be her escort in the public. A
man that she can parade around and thumb her nose up at... her ex-husband/boyfriend,
girlfriends or family members that did not approve of her. Look I have a new
man and he is better than the last one.
1. When you, the man, say to
this woman who is separating you from your family, that you want to see them
and she says, "I'm your family now. My kids are your kids, not your
first wife. You will not be visiting them on the holidays or any day, not
even their birthdays."
2. When your parents or
siblings want to see their son or brother (or if he has kids from another
relationship he wants to see) and she insists, "You have only this
vacation week off, you will spend it with me in Greece. My kids, my family is
all that is important now."
3. When there is an argument or
disagreement and things are not going in her favor, she threatens to leave and
never come back, if you don't let her have her way. This woman does not
compromise in anything for a happy home, "your happiness" does not matter
at all. Everything is her way or no way out that leaves you to feel like
you are not equal in the relationship, because you are not! This is a bad
relationship. You cave in and buy her another piece of jewelry, take her
on another vacation, buy her more things, which she quickly runs to show all
her dysfunctional friends and family, 'Look what I have." You the man,
thinks, "I guess this is love?" You are in a chaotic world and
if you don't get out of this relationship your life will continue in her
misery. She wants more money and you have to provide it. "You become
nothing to her but a sperm bank and wallet."
4. You have a woman that
is obsessed with her looks. She has to have a selfie taken of her beautiful
self every day and post it on a social media. She has to have the latest
fashions. She has to have her makeup exactly right every moment of every day
because she thinks everyone is looking at her beauty. She blows a gasket
when a nail breaks, this is cause to go to the emergency room. She wants
plastic surgery to fix this or that, she has to look good for her public.
She would rather spend money on her next surgery, Prada handbag, than
spend time with you soaking in a sunset and talking. She likes to spend,
spend, spend money. Yours and hers does not matter. She gets a high from
another dollar spent on her. No time for focusing on kids, hers or yours, it's
all about her and you. She needs an escort. No one wants to go
places alone. You are trapped. You did it to yourself.
There are so many scenarios I
have heard and seen in my life from men that it would be taxing to tell them
all. But I do believe when the relationship is solid and good for you
both you two can weather any storm, you can love each other forever. You
can stay married a lifetime, you can be simply happy, but there are a lot of
conversations between the two of you to come to compromises that are acceptable
to you both. In a committed relationship there will be compromises continually
until you hit "cruise control." There will still be
disagreements and challenges to overcome but you two really love one another
and are kind to one another. You respect each other as equals in the world. You
would not think of having sex with someone else, you love each other.
So single men, dating, this is
a zero tolerance thermometer for you. Stay away from controlling,
spoiled, angry, money worshipping, selfish, women who are dazzled by a Disney
princess role they want to play, these psychic vampires will suck your positivity
and kindness dry till you are starving for a way out and can't find the door.
This will not end nice.
That's right, only you can end it and it will be
hurtful, you will walk through fire to get out and save yourself. After
all you entered in to this web of deceit without heeding the warning signs.
You had your ego fed and your eyes closed. You were unaware. Learn and
move on, wait for the Sweetheart you deserve. She is out there but you have to
wait for her. You can't hurry true love, it finds you in time. We all
deserve to be truly loved by a kind person.
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